8 Ways To Stop Feeling Insecure In Your Relationship

8 Ways To Stop Feeling Insecure In Your Relationship

Do you feel insecure like why my partner is not giving me the attention I want? Why the things aren’t going smoothly? Why is it happening to me again?

Today, I’ll put all my attention to your worries and try to decode the main issues and how you can solve it.

8 Ways to stop feeling insecure in your relationship

  1. Look inwards

    Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash“>See inwards

    Look, I know you’re not in any mood to have your time wasted but let’s be honest. Think for a second why you’re feeling insecure? It’s simple there is something that is not getting fulfilled by you.

    Your partner has weaknesses, so do you.

    One way to get over your fulfillment is to express what you really want from your partner and if you have already tried it and nothing is changing. Maybe it’s your way of expressing things that isn’t making it happen.

    Maybe your way of talking is demanding and not selfless? I’m not pointing you out in any case but you need to think that what can make things work instead of worrying over and over.

    It doesn’t put an end to the problem but it does relax you in that moment when you relax yourself and express yourself in the best way possible.

  2. Look at the positives

    Photo by Leohoho on Unsplash“>Look at the positives

    When you feel insecure, you tend to see more negative qualities in your partner and it’s natural in that moment.

    But, you need to regroup yourself, and find one good thing that you partner does in the day.

    That builds faith and trust as you’re trying to look at the good aspects of your partner and you know what your partner will feel too.

    “When things are genuine, it isn’t said, it is just felt”

  3. Get a growth mindset, be open to new learnings

    Photo by vadim kaipov on Unsplash“>Growth Mindset & Open to Learnings


    While I’m no expert in having a growth mindset, but “I believe in improving yourself by 1% each day.”

    Sometimes insecurity leads to possessiveness, you want more from your partner while it’s okay to have some expectations but not many.

    You need to help yourself for your needs, develop skills in your free time, get a hobby, be it book reading, exercising of any form, leaning online.

    You invest time in yourself and that’s what in my eyes is a growth mindset.

    Sometimes, working on yourself helps your relationship a big deal.

  4. Don’t lose yourself in the relationship, love yourself too.

    Photo by Eddie Kopp on Unsplash“>Love yourself too in a relationship


    Sometimes, you feel to give out everything, your morals, ethics, respect, love or whatever you have in abundance.

    But, if something goes wrong (which I never want), what will you do?


    If you really think, you will understand that maintaining your personality is your lifetime job.

    I’m not selling the idea to be rigid, but it’s just you need to take care of yourself as well while being open to the learnings.

    If you have messed things out here, then you need to rebuild yourself. There is no other way. Things take time where I’ll only say do one thing right for yourself and… have patience.

  5. Feeling suspicious about your partner? Talk it out

    Photo by James Sutton on Unsplash“>Feeling Suspicious? Talk it out.


    While this is a situation you should never be in, if you have got, then you need to talk it out.

    Again, I’m no expert and I’m not guiding anything that I have not experienced or I’m not confident of.

    Talking it out is the only best possible out in my eyes.

  6. Make a decision

    Photo by Vladislav Babienko on Unsplash“>Make a decision


    Honestly saying, if you have tried most of the above things I wrote above, then it’s time to make a decision if you’re still insecure.

    The more you hold, the more it’s gonna hurt you and your partner.”

    If you feel emotional, how about expressing it to someone in your family whom you can trust or your childhood friend maybe?

    If none of the above suits you, then how about a relationship advisor or a therapist?

    You know that making a decision is important so stop feeling worried and make one in the best way you possibly can.

  7. “A friend in need is a friend indeed”

    Photo by Aman Shrivastava on Unsplash“>True Friend


    Nothing is better than expressing to your friend, sometimes you don’t get a solution but you feel relieved that you talked it out whatever that was building in your head for so long.

    I recommend you to try this out.

  8. Live Life

    Photo by JOSHUA COLEMAN on Unsplash“>Live Life


    You might have heard this “live and let live”. So, before assuming anything more about your partner’s behavior in this moment, just live, try the tips out and get over things which are making you insecure.

    It may take time but it’s worth it.


It’s alright, being insecure at times is part of life. Don’t worry. Remember, improve yourself by just 1% each day and you know you can do it.

Here is the Quick recap of the eight ways to stop feeling insecure in your relationship:

  1. Look inwards
  2. Look at the positives
  3. Get a growth mindset, be open to new learnings
  4. Don’t lose yourself in the relationship, love yourself too.
  5. Feeling suspicious about your partner? Talk it out
  6. Make a decision
  7. “A friend in need is a friend indeed”
  8. Live Life

I hope things get better at your place and you live and love peacefully.

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